Q:If a Daddy were to worry he was the only happiness in his little girls life, and that he might be holding her back even when she assures him he's not, does that make him no true dom at all? Or that he just doesn't believe her?
Ok, he gets EXTRA DOM POINTS about his concerns. If half the “Doms” were like him, the world would be a better place.
So yeah, Dom.
There are other options that may be the answer other than him not believing in you. He may be genuinely worried about your well-being, now and in the future.
Maybe make a list of all the ways he HAS ALREADY improved your life and then make a list of things you want his help with. This may help him see that he has put you on a good and healthy trajectory.
Remember, good Doms tend to worry a lot about their subs… A LOT.
Q:How do you tell someone who's Polyamorous and they are into you, but you're monogamous and are not interested?
Communication is key in BDSM, absolutely essential.
In this case, just straight up tell them how you feel.
These are gorgeous. I fantasize about a weekend away, a house on the coast, stormy waves, nothing you’d want to experience, save behind a pane of glass. Fireplace blazing, the smell of mushrooms and garlic, the only sounds the sizzle of steak and the occasional whimper that escapes the gag. Locked and bound, assurance I can’t escape.
As if I’d want to.
Q:how do you give a girl an orgasm?
Q:Can I be submissive to someone and have that relationship but not want to have sex yet?
Sure! No reason why you can’t.
Q:Sir, I have a question if you wouldn't mind.. I believe I'm a sub for many different reasons (too long to explain) but i can never be sure and recently I found out what a little is and I'm not sure if I'm a little or not.. I'm so confused :( I love cuddles and stuffies and feel really safe when being controlled but I'm very shy and a Virgin.. Do you think it's possible to find a dom or daddy that would be interested in a shy sub? Thank you
From my experience most subs are shy in one way or the other. I don’t think you will have any trouble with those issues, but here are some articles I want you to read form my Library For Kinksters.
I was talking with curioussubjourney yesterday about non-sexual forms of control that appeal or don’t appeal to us as people and kinksters.
I thought that this would be a fun thing to open up to Tumblr and see what others enjoy. Or what is straight up not appealing to someone. Essentially what form of control outside of sexual pleasure do you want to have/to give up.
So here’s a short list of ways I see myself asserting control in a Dom/sub kind of relationship with my Future Lady Sub (in an ideal setting). This list isn’t numbered in any particular order.
Not like in a “you can only read books for children” kind of way, but in like. “I want you to read this book. Get to chapter x by Friday so we can discuss it over dinner.” Intellectual non-fiction, classic fiction, fun fiction… But stuff that challenges and makes her think or feel. Something that can be used to spur discussion about whether it’s right or wrong.
2. Eating out
I really don’t want to be in charge of someone’s complete diet. But in terms of eating out, I find the idea of outright ordering the meal for her to be quite appealing.
When we’re going out somewhere, or going to be together for the day, I want to pick out how she’ll look. What she’ll wear for me that appeals, so I can show her off and so I can be enjoy the sight of her myself.
4. Standard household tasks
I find the idea of waking up and my clothes having been ironed/pressed and laid out the night before to be relaxing and nice. And it’s something I’m currently working into my routine. But it’s something I would like to see her take over. I tell her what I want to wear and she makes sure everything is neatly taken care of and arranged. Though I may take care of my shoe shining myself.
This is kind of a big thing for me, actually. For a partnership to work, I believe in pooled financial resources and then having one person making the financial decisions and administration. Even if both are working and pulling in decent incomes and you could essentially just “bill” the other person for their half of things like a roommate… I would want to manage all the finances coming in and out, and budgeting out what she can spend. And yes she would get a monthly allowance (generous but not unlimited) after all other expenses were accounted for. And sometimes I might give her extra and tell her to go buy a nice dress or something like that, but essentially I want to have that financial control.
(Given my job, this is not really a surprise anyway)
I’m not sure I can think of anymore off the top of my head. Anyone have some things they’d like to add?